When Aging Parents Move In…

Dear Holly, What advice would you give to those of us who have the added “P” of caring for aging parents while we still have little ones in the home?

Dealing With the “I want to be free” Feeling…

We all know the feeling – “I want to be free”, or as one woman commented, “reading Holly’s book made me feel… ‘tired’…” We know it well: “I don’t want to be constrained by a schedule. I want to “live”, to “be spontaneous”, to “encounter life” not to be “pre-determined”, “locked in a box” , “scheduled”… Sigh. Yet, we also know what being so “free” can lead to: – feeling overwhelmed with work – housework chaos – neglect of essential aspects of our vocation – the feeling of constantly sorting a mess – cleaning one part of the house while another falls apart – no time to “do what ‘I’ want” – a scattered heart, distracted, lacking peace – lacking recollection and any sense of intimacy with God – constantly realizing “I need a rule” – constantly saying “but…” – timidity and fear about my ability to live my vocation well…. Who wants to live this...

A Mother’s “Mission Litany”

Sometimes we have to have something to help us ‘put on’ our daily duties. Initially, when I began my rule, I had used an apron (a sign of my domestic vocation) and had recited a little prayer as I put it on every morning to help me ‘put on’ my vocation.  Today, I was reading a little Stephen Covey (quote in comments section) and was struck by the validity of a certain ‘prayer’ we moms could make which assist us every day to ‘put on our mission’.  We can write out what our daily mission is – detailing the assumption of the particular responsibilities of our unique vocation – and then ‘pray it’ to help us say ‘Yes’ to the Lord.  Something like this: A Mother’s Mission – Litany “I promise with the help of Your Grace  – To take care of my soul by fulfilling the prayer norms of my mother’s rule, as per Your Will Lord; To take care of my body by temperate food, balanced exercise, adequate rest, and my emotions by positive thoughts, as per Your Will Lord; To be loving, kind and helpful to my husband and children, as per Your Will Lord; To oversee well the Catholic education of my children, as per Your Will Lord; To be a good steward of my home, as per Your Will Lord; To [here, add your own personal additional ‘missions’ discerned] as per Your Will Lord; Behold the Handmaid of the Lord Be it done unto me, according to Your Word; I desire To do all for You Lord, Because You ask it of me, Out...

Does Hubby Have “REAL” Authority?

Dear Holly, I love your book and have read it several times. I recently pulled it out again to refer to the section you wrote on pages 87-90 about, as you called it, “The Submission Issue”. I wanted to read this again because I recently discovered that a woman I have a growing friendship with seems to always defer to her husband in major and minor decisions about their family. She referred to her husband as the “spiritual head of the household” in explaining this. I have great respect and admiration for this family – my purpose in researching this issue is only for my own understanding, not to take issue with the way that they make decisions. In one of your comments in your blog you said, “A husband… does have real authority given by God for the smooth running of the home and proper education of the children.” Could you elaborate exactly what you mean by this? Does this mean that a husband has a greater authority than his wife in these matters? If so, could you please site some helpful references (Church documents, etc.) to help me understand this? It seems to contradict the way you explained the “submission issue” in your book and the way you described that decision-making in a marriage when there is disagreement should be “satisfactory compromise”. I also looked up the document you referenced in your book, “JOHN PAUL II ON THE DIGNITY AND VOCATION OF WOMEN” and found what I believe to be your “counter edge gripping moment” (page 89 of your book): “in the relationship between husband and wife...

Homeschool Lesson Plans for Many Children

Dear Holly,  The Mother’s Rule has helped me for the past 4 years, and I am constantly revisiting your book.  As I recently have “let things go” for a while, I am renewing my efforts to my vocation and really trying to get things in order before the next school year.   One thing I have struggled with is creating a lesson plan chart for more than one child.  As a former teacher, I am used to writing out lessons plans in a lesson plan book, but I would like a more efficient way to list assignments and projects. Do you have some...
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