New Year Clean Up?

Dear Holly, Christmas is over and family visitors are leaving. I really want to get my home in order for the New Year, but to be honest, I am OVERWHELMED! Everything is such a mess, and I honestly don’t know where to start. It is beginning to make me depressed, just looking at the mounds of stuff and clutter all over my house. When I start to clean it up, I take so much time that the rooms get even more messy before they get better, and even my husband is beginning to comment. My husband and my kids help out, but I can’t have them do this all day every day – I really think this will take me months to do a serious de-clutter. Do you have any tips to help me pull things together quickly, yet still do a thorough...

Homeschooling and Eldercare at the Same Time?

Hi Ladies Someone had written to me last year asking about considerations for homeschooling when one is also doing eldercare in the home. I just found a great article by HSLDA on this topic: Balancing Eldercare and...

Dealing with Our Sufferings

“In order not to resist the divine action, we should remember that God generally purifies souls through the ordinary circumstances of life… There is always a measure of suffering sufficient to effect the purification of the spirit. These are the sufferings which God Himself chooses and disposes in the way best suited to the different needs of souls. Unfortunately, few profit by them because few know how to recognize in the sorrows of life the hand of God who wishes to purify them. Illness, bereavement, estrangement, separation from dear ones, misunderstandings, struggles, difficulties proceeding sometimes from the very ones who should have been able to give help and support, failure of works that were cherished and sustained at the price of great labor, abandonment by friends, physical and spiritual solitude… – all such things are positively willed or at least permitted by God precisely to purify us even to the very inmost fibers of our being. In the face of these trials, we must never blame the malice of men… we must see only the blessed hand of God who offers us these bitter remedies to bring perfect health to our soul… Have patience and constancy in all the trials and tribulations God sends… Take them all as from His hand the soul’s healing and it’s good, and do not flee from them, since they are health to us…” by Fr Gabriel of St Mary Magdalene, O.C.D. , in “Divine Intimacy: Meditations on the Interior Life for Every Day of the Liturgical Year”, Baronius Press, London, 2010,...

Life is Feeling Crammed…

Dear Holly, I developed a rule a while ago, but I continue to feel like I am cramming too much into too little time and struggle to set clear boundaries to cut off activities. I have felt a strong call lately to “grow up” more and to model self-mastery to my children for an increase of peace in our home (as indicated by our 4 year old praying during family prayer on the way to Church this morning “Jesus please help Mommy never yell again ever ever!” Could use some help and guidance...

Hubby Won’t Help at All…

Dear Holly, My husband does not and has not helped me ever with morning or evening routines, caring for the kids, housekeeping, no dishes, no trash out, no nothing. Thank God for my faith!! He has some psychological issues. He also works hard, and he drinks every night and is extremely unorganized. Of course, I have asked him to help out. I have begged him!!!! He never had to do that stuff in his home. I married him when I was very young. We have had our share of rough roads and I seek counseling whenever I feel stuck. He is against counseling and thinks it is just a money-maker and that he can do it on his own. We have actually come a long way. Unfortunately, my marriage is my cross. I became a member of one of the lay movements in the Church a few years ago and it brought me so much deeper into my faith and prayer life. It helped him too. I feed my soul with the sacraments and I say my rosary every morning on the treadmill. I hope that things will change, but he has to change. I can’t make him. So I just continue to look for ways to be better for God and for my kids and for him for that matter. I pray for the grace of God to give him wisdom and healing. I do know that I am permitting this situation where he won’t help at home….. but it is very exhausting when I rock the boat. I left once… My struggle has always been being the...
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